When intense emotional hurt happens in your romantic relationship, the tendency is to emotionally and sometimes physically distance yourself from your partner while desiring to be understood and comforted by them at the same time. However, this is contrary to the healthy communication strategies that are taught in couple’s therapy. The goal is for partner’s to learn to attune & become contributors to the healing process of one another. Learning how to effectively care for your significant other & to receive care from your partner simultaneously, is the beautiful dance that is taught through this work…
How many times have you heard someone say after a stressful day “I’m headed home to do some self-care?” Usually what they mean is that they plan to splurge on junk food and binge watch How To Get Away With Murder on Netflix. This may be a really great way to decompress from a long day for some, though for others it may only increase feelings of being overwhelmed due to putting important things off. So then what truly is considered self-care? How do we know when we are doing it effectively and can it change day to day?…
As a marriage and family therapist, people come into our office often searching for remedies and solutions of sorts to stop the agony and pain that they are experiencing in their relationships. Many of them have done well at keeping lists and have been valiant warriors in the games of tit for tat. They almost always struggle with identifying their once loved ones efforts to maintain the relationships love tank. Couples struggle to relate to one another when they fail to trust. I believe trust is an essential building block on which thriving relationships are built. So lets break it down…
There are few things more vital to our health and well-being than having stable supportive relationships in our lives. One important step to taking control over our mental and emotional health is by recognizing the influence that those closest to us have on the decisions we make. By nature, we are designed to be relational at the core of our existence. We are not meant to do life in isolation & for this reason, solitary confinement has been deemed as cruel and unusual punishment because of what research has identified that living in isolation does to the human brain…